8. Don’t hide who you are, what you look like, or what your current situation is.
You want to put your best self forward. But make sure it’s the real you, not just something you think the opposite sex will be impressed with.
So many people on dating websites are actually still legally married to other people—trust me, I’ve looked. It may be what everyone else is doing or what others are telling you to do, but if you’re still married, do the right thing and maintain the integrity of your marriage: wait until the divorce is completely finalized. After a time of healing, then you can start looking.
Whether you have one child or eight, be honest with that information right up front. Some people love children and want a big family, so they won’t be intimidated by your family size. But not everyone. Giving someone who is not interested in raising children a chance to walk away will protect all involoved from unnecessary hurt. And honestly, no one wants to be lied to—that would be a deal breaker.
Only post updated photos of yourself: nothing with your children or any ex-relationships (even if that person is cropped out).
Lastly, don’t share cleavage, muscle, or other body parts in your photos hoping to attract a new mate. You want someone who accepts you, the good and the bad, without seeing you as a trophy or a body (to be used). You are so much more than your physical attributes. Share your talents and personality. The right person will be impressed by what you truly look like and who you really are rather than some made up, fake version of yourself. If you have high standards for yourself, you’ll attract someone who also has high standards.